#1: The Material
From their Facebook Page:
Hailing from San Diego, CA, The Material has catapulted into the national limelight of up-and-coming bands. With their debut EP release “Tomorrow”, The Material has effectively attracted attention from multiple media outlets including television, internet, radio, and even video games.
Fans of The Material have made their presence known by making The Material the number one unsigned band in San Diego Myspace’s music polls and by voting for The Material out of 4,000 bands to perform live on MTV’s Dew Circuit Breakout.
Their song “Moving to Seattle” is featured on the video game Rock Band, they have had songs featured on the WB’s “Sorority Forever”, and have had their video for the song “The Truth About Reality” featured on MTV2.
Currently the band is heading out on tour to promote their highly anticipated new 3-song EP “To Weather The Storm”.
Meet the Band:
Jon Moreaux – Guitar
Roi Elam – Guitar
Jordan Meckley – Bass
Kevin Pintado – Drums
Hands down #1 is The Material. No questions asked, no doubt about it. I’ve gotten to know the members of this band, current and former, personally, and I have only nice things to say about them. They know and remember each of their fans by their first names and Colleen, the lead singer, makes it a point to connect with every fan during shows. After they break down the equipment for each show (themselves), they come to their own merch booth and are happy to meet their fans, sign autographs, sign merch and pose for pictures. I personally know they love to hug, so make sure to do so next time you see them play.
One thing you can tell about a band is how their former members interact with the band after leaving it. I know 4 former members of The Material, and each one still loves and supports the band and their music. You can find the former bass player, Matt, at many of their shows. At The Material’s first show without original drummer, Noah, he still came and proceeded to jump on stage half-way through the show and rocked out with Jon. Brian and DAS, both former bass players, are still very close with original members Roi, Jon and Colleen, and twitter @ each other often.
The Material is not just a band, but a group of people you can actually reach out to and become friends with. Their level of commitment and contact with their fans puts them above and beyond any other local band, and any band in general. I personally make it a point to introduce The Material to all my friends, and I honestly have yet to find someone who doesn’t love their music. And yes, they may seem similar to Paramour, but if you listen carefully, they are their own unique sound. They have a darker, harder edge to them that makes rocking out a necessity.
Their facebook description obviously was not updated recently, since they have already completed their first full length album that is set to be released 1.11.11, called “What We Are“. Their first EP was “Tomorrow” consisted of 6 rockin’ songs, which is about 10 too short! Off that album, the song “Moving to Seattle” was featured in Rock Band, and is one of my personal favorite songs to play AND sing too. And I don’t sing. A hint though: The drum-track is insane if you go any higher than easy. They are releasing a second song to Rock Band, to be announced. Their second EP, “To Weather the Storm” sounded a bit different from the first one. Their sound and lyrical content had matured and the first track “Unforgivable” has some amazing rifts and sound effects in it. PS, all are available through itunes.
The Material recently released a music video for their song “Before This Ship Goes Down”, check it out here: http://www.purevolume.com/new/thematerial.
You can also buy their awesome merch, previous albums, and pre-order their upcoming album all here: http://thematerial.bigcartel.com/products. I can’t wait for their album release show:
This will be our first Main Stage show at Soma so we really want to see ALL of you there!
WHAT: The Material CD Release Show for “What We Are”
WHEN: Friday, January 14, 2011
WHERE: Soma, 3350 Sports Arena Blvd., San Diego, CA
WHY: Don’t even ask. You DO NOT want to miss this! :]
WHO: THE MATERIAL w/ A Dull Science, Get Back Loretta, Flight To Athena, and more
HINT: Buy multiple tickets by changing the quantity on the check out screen!
CDs and brand new merch (new posters, new shirts, new hoodies, and more) will be on sale at the show!
Tickets will be shipped the week of the show.
The Material is already a huge band, who have done several nationwide tours, released albums, and all on their own dime! Yes, you heard me right, they are a DIY band, which means when you order something, they are the ones who are driving to the post office and mailing you their merch, with love.
Here is a sampler of their new album: WARNING, it’s amazing.
#2: IVES the Band
From their Facebook Page:
Hello, we’re Ives The Band from San Diego, California. Our debut full length, “The Incredible Story of Mr. Birch“, is available NOW on iTunes and Amazon MP3! Become a fan of IVES & receive exclusive news, contests, and updates here on Facebook!
Meet the Band:
I heard of this band because they opened for Dashboard Confessional at House of Blues. I actually arrived to late to hear them at HoB, but I did listen to them online and immediately fell in love with their sound. I bought their album on itunes, and have been a fan ever since. A few months ago I finally got to see them live at The Beauty Bar, and they were even better live. The lead singer’s intensity was so easy to get lost in. And even though it was a small show with not a lot of people there, they committed like it was a huge show. But what makes these guys #2 over some other great bands is how nice they were. I talked to the guys after their show at Beauty Bar and they were so nice, and so open. They actually went all the way out to their van to bring me the two styles of shirts they had, so I could choose, and they offered to give it to me for free! And they threw in a poster, which they all signed for me. I payed them what I could though, because after hearing The Material’s story, they don’t have much to live on day to day when they are on tour. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS tip your band if you can, and never accept the deal!
Here is a video of them playing live at the House of Blues in Aneheim
Plain and Simple, their music is chilling and magical. It’s GOOD. It’s more than good.
#3: Children of Nova
From their Facebook Page:
“Children of Nova is an American experimental rock band from San Diego, California. The band incorporates aspects of alternative rock, progressive rock, post- hardcore, punk rock, heavy metal and jazz.”
Meet the Band:
Teo – Vocals
Nick – Guitar
Pozzi – Guitar
Mario – Bass
Colin – Drums
I came to know of this band through a guy I dated, who was really close friends with pretty much all the members of the band. Children of Nova also has played alongside The Material many times, which always makes for a hell of a killer rock show. For a short time, I got to hang around these guys and get to know some of them a little bit and one thing I can say about them is that they are all serious about their music, and seriously in love with playing.
Their debut album, “The Complexity of Light“, is a concept album, but even if you listen to the songs alone or in random order, they are all still facemelting!
They break down the concept to the album here, from their Myspace Page:
Hello CON fans everywhere!First off thank you for listening and being a part of our artistic journey!
Our first album, “The Complexity of Light” was just released and the response has been amazing! And while you are all enjoying the music we thought it was important to give you a deeper understanding of the characters, setting and terms used in the story of our album to enhance the overall experience. So here goes….
1. Children of Nova: Our name follows the belief that we are all made up of the same space materials and stardust from giant supernoval explosions.
2. Nova: The leader and defender of light. One of two characters (the other being Corbin) to be tested as leader of his world. He believes he can save the world and everyone in it by instilling hope and courage into their souls. Since childhood, he has suffered extremely lucid, vivd dreams of the future which he has used to bring the hopeless and deprived back to the light.
3. Corbin: The leader and defender of darkness. Born from intense reactions of energy on his home planet, he too was chosen to pursue leadership over his world. But what he craved was control. Although more powerful than his nemesis (Nova), he lacked the ability of forsight. In his experiences he found that crows on Arceadion carried small fragments of time inside them. When they gazed into his eyes he saw a piece of his life, either past, present or future. His connection to the birds was immediate and with their aid he formed his destiny; which ultimately leads to the destruction of the sun.
4. Arcaedion: The home planet to our characters and the setting of our story.
5. The Order: Corbin’s personal army of pure darkness. Once thriving people with unique freedoms, they now turn over their existence to the most powerful of beings and destroyer of the sun, Corbin. He promises them a fresh start in a new system of worlds that he will take them to once he has acquired enough of their life energy.
6. Second Sight Blackout: A prophecy showing the complete destruction of Arcaedion and the final steps of Corbin’s fall into darkness.
7. The Fall of Aphonia: The end of the common man’s silence. We all must be heard.
There is much more to be released and eventually the entire saga will be available. For now, if you have any questions or feel like chatting with us to enter deeper into the story please feel free. We are unbelievably passionate about what we are creating and your interest is more than appreciated.
We hope all this helped you peer through the door of our overall path and design.
We love and appreciatee you, our fans.
Infinite love and laughter,
Children of Nova
My personal favorite song is “The Order”. The drums on that song are out of this world crazy, and Colin is an excellent musician. Their music composition is far above par from what many other local bands are doing, and they often switch time in the middle of their songs, sometimes several times through a song. Their song “The Complexity of Light” can also be found on Rock Band, and they are soon releasing a second song to the game, to be announced. I heard a rumor once that Teo’s voice hits the second highest note in Rock Band history, the first belonging to Evanescence. I don’t know if it is verified… but once you listen to the song, it is certainly believable!
Their shows are never boring, and if you miss one, you are truly sad. They don’t just play music on a stage, they put on a show, Teo draws you in with his intensity and the other members of the band keep you entertained with their moves. They definitely are a hardcore rock band, more so than any other band on this list. And beyond that, CoN connects with fans much like The Material. After their shows you can find them at their merch counter, ready to sign posters, autographs, take pics (beware: they’re often sweaty) and give free hugs. They really are some of the chillest, friendliest guys out there, so don’t be scared to come up and say HI to them after a show.
I also just saw on their Myspace Page that they are releasing their second album sometime in the Fall of 2011, so keep following them for updates on this, and shows.
#4: The Silent Comedy
From their Facebook Page:
“It all really started when my brother and I began writing songs and playing together in a little house on an alley in Imperial Beach, California. We had no furniture, no dishes, not even a stove. The only thing in the house was an old upright piano.” says J. John, vocalist and bass player. “We had just moved back to California after living out of backpacks traveling through southeast Asia, India, Nepal, southern Europe, and the United States. We came back with nothing, but someone gave us a piano so we started writing songs.””I used to go into department stores just to play piano in Europe. The management would get upset but people would be crowding around, so they let me play.” adds J. Benjamin, John’s brother, vocalist, and multi-instrumentalist. “They didn’t like a scruffy hobo-looking kid touching their expensive instruments. We really started from nothing when we moved back to the US and have built new lives around our music.”
The Silent Comedy started as a side project of the now defunct post-punk group Dehra Dun. The brothers started that band, named for a city in India where they had lived, in 2002 along with drummer/multi-instrumentalist J. Benedict.
“The Silent Comedy was started with two goals: To be a recording project that could involve many of our musician friends, and to be an outlet for this Americana material we had been writing, ” J. John explains. “We didn’t really intend for it to be a live band at all. One thing led to another, and we needed to play a show that Dehra Dun was unavailable for, so we decided to give it a shot.” I. Forbes, who had played violin with Dehra Dun, and longtime friend J. Michael were enlisted to help with the first show. “After that, things just took off.” Remembers J. Michael.
The band changed from its original idea of a fluid lineup and a strict ‘recording only’ vision to a five piece core with a variety of guests.
In addition to a cast of guest performers, The Silent Comedy is known for its frequent instrument changes, and lively stage antics. Their live show has become their defining characteristic.
“It’s some kind of mix between vaudeville and a tent revival meeting,” says violinist I. Forbes. “We want to give you more for your money than just a bunch of indie guys on stage trying to look as bored as possible. We don’t care a whole lot about being cool.”
Old time clothes, high energy stage antics, foot stomping, and group sing-a-longs define a Silent Comedy performance. “I love their live show.” Offers Tim Pyles (F.M. 94.9, Music Matters Magazine). “It’s got rock and old-time religion, as well as the ability to take you to a space occupied by only a few bands.”
“We wanted to get back to a certain performance ethic.” adds John. “My great-grandparents were traveling performers in vaudeville and that tradition of showmanship is strong in what we do.”
“If you feel like you can’t find music that you can raise your beer to, come see us,” says J. Michael. “Grow a beard, pour a drink and get folked up.”
In late 2007 The Silent Comedy began work on an untitled EP. With songs recorded at XIV Recorders with Brian Karscig of Louis XIV (Atlantic Records) producing. The project promises to be the band’s best studio representation to date. “Until now the live show was the thing to see.” Says J. Benedict. “This recording finally captures a bit of what we try to bring to the show.”
Meet the Band:
Chad Lee: Percussion
Jeremiah Zimmerman: Piano, Guitar, Vocals
Joshua Zimmerman: Bass guitar, Vocals
Justin Buchanan: Banjo, Guitar, Mandolin
Tim Graves: Guitar, Harmonica, Vocals
You know I’m not entirely sure of how I originally started listening to this band. They played a show with The Material once that I wasn’t able to attend, but my little sister and her friends were there and they came home with rave reviews, so I looked em up online and gave them a listen and loved them! I did get to see them play one show though at Soma Sidestage when they played with Children of Nova, and my sister and I bought some shirts from them. They tried to give us a deal, but I refused. And I think I have a crush on all of them! They are some seriously sexy guys!
The Silent Comedy just released their second EP this year, “Common Faults” which can be found on itunes. My favorite song is “Carnival” off “Common Faults” and I think sums up why they are such a fun band to listen to on album, and even funnier to watch play live. Their show is never dull, as they are always switching things up. Including venue. This band plays more venues than any other bands that I follow, which I think is awesome because each time you see them it’s a totally different experience. They just played their last show for the year at U-31, an event that I was unable to attend, and VERY sad about it.
Read this interview from Owl and Bear and you really get a sense of how involved they are in their music, and how much they genuinely care.
From their Facebook Page:
“Transfer is a mumu of music draped over the grandma of their genre.”
Meet the Band:
Shaun Cornell, Andy Ridley, Jason Cardenas and Matthew Molarius
I’ve actually never seen Transfer live, but I know that they have played with many of the bands I have already listed above. I do own their album, and it’s a great one! They were just named in Clash Magazine “ONES TO WATCH in 2011″! Read the article here: http://www.transferband.com/transfer/blog-article//412/
Since I don’t know much about this band, I will let their music and fans speak for themselves. But keep a look out on them… I know I will be!!!
As part of my Holiday List of activities to do, I got started last night by attending December Nights at Balboa Park. I have never attended this before, even though I was born and raised in SD, and I will likely not be going back. Tip if you do go next year: park at Petco for $3 and take the free shuttle to and from. The shuttle trip was fast, warm, and the shuttle was actually nice. Another tip if you decide to go: bundle up. Cause it was FREEZING!! I was so not prepared for it to be that cold. I was also expecting to spend more time indoors, since all the museums were open free to the public for the event. However, much like any big event in San Diego, there were lines… lines for everything! Lines for the museum, lines for what looked like a beer garden, lines for kettle corn. So be expecting that. I also found there wasn’t too much to do besides eat street food and be cold… I thought it was going to be WAY more decorated then it was, and also more going on then there was. Mostly there was just people walking everywhere. We saw one group dance, and one teen choir sing, and that was it. Pretty much as soon as we got there we decided that we would get our free museum in, and then go somewhere warm! The Museum of Photographic Art didn’t have a line, and it was soooo warm in there! But MoPA is a rather boring museum, at least we got in for free. I also thought there would be more vendors out there selling stuff like at Oktoberfest, but either I didn’t see them, or they didn’t exist. All in all, I’m glad I experienced it, but I probably won’t be going next year. Next up is hopefully the Parade of Lights at the Del Mar Fairgrounds!
Even though here in San Diego we don’t really have winter, or seasons for that matter… we just have “nice”, I still love this time of the year none-the-less! I am compiling all the San Diego local events that are going on this season that I wanna do! Some are yearly traditions, most are things I’ve never done. Similar to “The List”, I will attempt to participate in all of these fun events, and blog about them!…. So here it goes!
1. Holiday of Lights at the Del Mar Fairgrounds
We San Diegans are notorious for using the drive-thru lanes, so why not to see Christmas lights? With more than 400 lighted and animated scenes, this 1.5-mile drive around the world-famous Del Mar Racetrack is sure to get everyone from ages 1 to 100 into the holiday spirit. With returning holiday favorites such as Toyland, Candy Cane Lane, Treasures by the Lake and Elves at Play, the holiday tradition continues with opening night on November 25 (Thanksgiving) and running through Sunday, January 2, 2011.
2. December Nights at Balboa Park (Click for Blog post)
Traditionally, the holiday season kicks off with a grand celebration in Balboa Park. Balboa Park December Nights is a two-day gift to the community that brings out the holiday spirit in all, this year taking place December 3 and 4, 2010. The beloved San Diego event features sparkling lights, theatrical and musical entertainment, and exotic Food/Spirits throughout the Park.
3. San Diego Parade of Lights
Now this is quintessential San Diego: the 39th annual San Diego Bay Parade of Lights. On Dec. 12 and 19, 2010, 5:30 – 9 p.m., see over 100 boats, all decked out in lighted glory, cruise a 7.5 mile route on San Diego Bay. This year’s theme is a “The Sounds of Christmas” and it promises to be better than ever. Best vantage points from the shore are along the Embarcadero, Seaport Village, Harbor Island and Coronado.
4. The Grinch at The Old Globe
The Old Globe Theater production of “How the Grinch Stole Christmas!” has quickly become an annual holiday classic in a mere 5 years. The musical, directed by acclaimed director Jack O’Brien, brings to life the classic Dr. Seuss book with incredible sets and memorable performances. The 2010 production runs through Nov. 15 through Dec. 28.
5. The Holiday Bowl Parade
The Bridgepoint Education Holiday Bowl Parade at 10 a.m. on Dec. 30, 2010 is known for one thing: balloons. Dubbed “America’s Largest Baloon Parade,” more than 30 giant ballons will float down the one-mile route along the Embarcadero, along with bands, drill teams and more. It’s the precursor to the evening’s main event: the Bridgepoint Education Holiday Bowl at Qualcomm Stadium, one of college footballs most exciting and successful bowl games. After the parade, hit the Family Festival at the Broadway Pier.
6. Ice Skate
It’s our own version of the Rockefeller Center ice rink – the downtown ice rink at Horton Square is a perfect holiday setting, nestled between Horton Plaza and the NBC 7/39 TV studios (can you see the Rockefeller Center parallels?). Beginning Nov. 18 through Jan. 11, 2011, bring the family downtown, in the evening, so you can bundle up in stocking caps and mittens, pretend you’re Manhattanites and skate away. It’s only $14/$12 and proceeds benefit Children’s Hospital. In addition, the Hotel del Coronado offers ice skating by-the-sea with an outdoor ice rink overlooking the ocean from 11/24-1/2. And Viejas Outlet Center boasts San Diego’s largest outdoor ice skating rink.
7. Neighborhood Christmas Lights
Who doesn’t love to see Christmas lights? Several neighborhoods around town put on annual displays (competitions?), but none more venerable than Christmas Circle in Chula Vista, a tradition for over 46 years. People come from all over San Diego to see the wonderful displays. I like the one in Santee over by Mast.
San Diego’s favorite holiday show – now in it’s 18th year!
Traditions of Christmas has a whole new look. CCT is moving San Diego’s favorite holiday show to the beautiful and historic Balboa Theatre right in the heart of downtown San Diego in Horton Plaza. Along with the move downtown comes a fantastic show with new scenes, a new storyline, and lots of new music. There is something for every age from 1 to 100! Come experience the sights, sounds and magic of the holiday season. You will be enchanted by customs from around the world. All your favorite Christmas stories come to life on stage and you’ll be singing along with your favorite holiday songs. There is something for everyone as we visit Santa and Mrs. Claus up in the North Pole. Enjoy the all new Christmas Countdown of the greatest Christmas songs of all time. Christmas is not complete without a Living Nativity with its inspiring carols, choirs and majestic pageantry. Come see why over 300,000 people come back year after year to this colorful family spectacular.
9. Christmas Movie Line-up
These are some of my favorite Christmas movies: Elf, The Grinch, The Santa Clause, The Holiday, Tim Burton’s The Nightmare Before Christmas, The Family Stone, and The Family Man.
10. Peppermint Mocha from Starbucks
It’s so strong, you can have only about 1 per season.
11. Decorate Holiday Cookies!
Ha!!…. last year at our 1st annual friends christmas party we had a cookie decorating station that, well, ended up being ALOT funnier than any of imagined when we made “cookie porn”. It’s pretty much exactly what it sounds like. Lucky for you, we have the whole thing on video, narrated by my best friends Mike and Cristina, with my loud voice in the background (and foreground sometimes). Enjoy:
12. Wear a really ugly/fabulous Christmas Sweater!
1. Barney Stinson:
- TV Show: How I Met Your Mother
- Played by: Neil Patrick Harris
- Catchphrase: “Awesome.” Legend… wait for it… dary!” “Suit up!” “High-Five” “Haaaave you met Ted?” “What Up.”
Easily the funniest character on TV right now, and arguably in TV history, NPH brings this character to life. I’ve laughed so hard I’ve cried watching Barney. He plays laser-tag, and has the best explanations of relationships and women, and sometimes life too. Some examples of this are: *Lemon law for dating *The Bro Code *The Play Book *The crazy hot scale and many many more. It would take waaay too long to put all of his awesomeness into words here, so if you want to know, I BEG you, watch the show.
His catchphrases translate into real life, and personally, I use them all the time. I even did this:
And if you had to ask why he’s awesome… in his own words… “haha, please.”
2. Ben Linus/Henry Gale:
- TV Show: LOST
- Played by: Michael Emerson
- Catchphrase: Something about Jacob said with his big creepy eyes
When this character first emerged in One of Them, I went back and forth so many time debating if I believed his story or not, eventually I did. The way Michael Emerson played that character, such conviction. I don’t think there is a better dramatic actor our there. Ever. You know, originally, his part was only supposed to be a multi-episode story arch, but the response from the viewers toward him was so great, that they kept him on the rest of the season, and the season after made him a starring character, which if you are a LOSTIE, you know lasted until the end of the season.
Ben has such weird mannerisms… the way he says “Jacob” with fear… and when he gives his speeches, he is simply extraordinary. But the thing I love most about Ben is his ambiguity… he fits perfectly the model of “relativism”. You never know if what he is doing is good or bad. That’s the point. A lot of times, we think he is bad, but then it turns out he had a good motive for what he did, which makes it good. He is able to swing morality whichever way he wants, he controls the picture. He was written by the producers to be the “Big Bad”, but he was able to humanize his evil character in such a way that he became many people’s favorite character. Especially as Locke went more and more down the crazy path.
Originally I had Desmond Hume in the #2 spot, but after careful consideration, and no matter how much I love Desmond, all I have to do is go back and think about Henry Gale, and that’s what makes him the best. It was one hell of a journey from watching Sayid torture him, to finding out he was indeed lying, to what he did to the kidnapped 4… then watching his backstory during Season Others, and see, well maybe there is a soft side to him and he isn’t pure evil. THEN finding out the reasons why he is the way he is IS because of the Losties (Jack especially)… But no matter how much you started to see him as a good guy, he always did something dark. Dark, but necessary, at least in his mind.
3. Buffy Summers:
- TV Show: Buffy the Vampire Slayer
- Played by: Sarah Michelle Gellar
- Catchphrase: Something dark said in an upbeat tone with a high sense of sarcasm.
“That.. probably would have sounded more commanding if I wasn’t wearing my Yummy Sushi pajamas.”
“Buffy: Ever heard the expression ‘slayer’?
Vampire: [confused look]
Buffy: Okay..how about ‘Ow my knee, my knee’?
Vampire: [confused look once again before jumping on Buffy]
Buffy: [kicks vampire in the kneecap]
Vampire: Ow my knee, my knee!!”
She was hot, young, and kicked MAJOR ass as the Slayer. She was funny, sarcastic, and was friends with the geekiest of geeks. Buffy was one of my favorite TV shows because it was not only entertaining, but it was smart and well written. Each episode was layered togo beyond the monsters and high school drama into something deep that actually connected to people. I couldn’t imagine any other actress playing Buffy (even the one who played her in the movie). And she had an awesome sense of style, even while butt-kicking. Buffy went through so many different emotional phases of her life and really grew as the show progressed, which is something many actresses can’t do and it made her character totally relatable to young females. She was sometimes dark, and sometimes let it show. Plus she ultimately beat Faith, who gave Buffy a run for her money with badassness.
4. The cast of Arrested Development:
Since every single person in this show was amazing, and collectively they would take up all the top 10 spots, so I will just cheat and put them all here. If you’ve never watched this show, please get the hell off my blog and don’t come back until you do. You’re life is not complete yet.
Main Cast (in order of my faves):
- Michael Bluth: “You said Arizona again.” “You can’t do that on the balcony, buddy?” “You baited the balcony?”
- Gob (George Oscar Bluth, Jr.): “I’ve made a huge mistake.” “Illusion, Michael. A trick is something a whore does for money…”
- Tobias Funke: “I’m afraid I just blue myself.” “Time for me to take off my receptionist skirt and put on my Barbara Streisand in the Prince Of Tides ass-masking therapist pantsuit.”
- Buster Bluth: “Heeeeeeeeeey Brother.” “But it walked on my pillow!” “Like anyone would want to R her.”
- Lucille Bluth: “I love all my children equally. [earlier that day] I don’t care for Gob.” “Buster! Stop playing with Mother’s rape horn Yes, I have a rape horn, Michael, because you took away my mace.”
- Ann Veal: who? her? mayanegg
- Steve Holt: (Steve Holt!)
5. Jim/Dwight rivalry
- TV Show: The Office
- Played by: John Krasinski and Rainn Wilson
Watch. Enough said.
See the first 10 reasons here!
10. Free milk?
9. You HAVE to try new positions. Missionary is not really possible anymore. Up for the challenge?
8. I’m taking yoga classes for strength and breathing techniques. But its YOGA. Bendy… Stretching… You see where I’m going with this?
7. We do kegals. Daily.
6. You realize you’re awesome: There’s something very manly about coming in a woman and child’s life and providing for them when the biological father refuses to. Its so honorable, truly. My dad raised my half-brother since he was a baby and is now raising my cousin since she was in 6th grade. I’m not saying any woman needs to be rescued, but it takes a certain mature and capable man to do it. It really says something about a guy, that ultimately he can be a provider. And I’m all for feminism, but in the end my man needs to be a provider, a protector, honorable and selfless. If you can actually date or be with a preggo woman or single mom, you likely possess these qualities, and I applaud you.
5. Did I mention before the awesome cravings you get to join in on? That means no lectures from us on eating cheetos and ice cream for dinner, then chips and pickles for dessert. And cake. Mmmm cake. Or oreos!
4. Nesting. It means we LOVE to clean and organize, so if you’re messy… Put us in your room for an hour and it’ll be spotless. And we probably won’t even notice we did it!
3. Sick of co-dependent women who lose their lives and themselves into their relationship? Well, nothing says independence from YOU like a baby. That means we’ll never be those uber clingy girls and we’ll want some time and space outside of you for our other relationship.
2. If you’re ready for a grown up relationship with a woman who is settled down and responsible, look no further than a preggo lady/single mom. I no longer have time to be immature and irresponsible, even if I wanted to.
1. NO DRAMA. I’d say being a single mom is about as close to being drama free as possible. I don’t have time for petty gossip, nor do I have time to worry about silly things that I did when I was 20… Like “who was that girl I heard in the background?” Jealousy really has no place anymore because with a kid, there’s no games (except maybe peek-a-boo, and yes, that’s both a sexual innuendo and a baby game). You screw me over, there won’t be ANY drama, you’ll just be gone. Same with friends.
This week’s top 10 list is something very near and dear to my heart. Top 10 reasons why dating a hot pregnant chic is AWESOME!
10. We rub baby oil all over. Daily.
9. Hate women who only eat a salad? Well, we’ll eat the salad, the steak, the fries, your fries, and dessert. And the best part? No bloat… That’s just the baby.
8. Wanna take advantage of that beer and shot deal the bar has during football Sunday? Don’t mind if ya do. Dating us is like having a built in DD.
7. We like to sleep. A lot. That means you can either sleep with us or watch whatever you want on TV.
6. Like being taken care of? Well guess what, we’re gearing up for that so our taking care of someone tolerance is much higher. So yeah, we’ll get you another beer honey.
5. No that time of the month.
4. Your button down shirts are SO comfy to wear around the house. Lucky for you they’re pretty sexy too, no?
3. Pregnant women are naturally hornier.
2. Curvy women are hot. Preggo=curves in literally all the right places like…
1. Like boobs? How about big ones? Like DDs? Yeah, we got em.
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It’s hard navigating the post-college world of dating. In college, if you were in a frat or sorority, you were set, men and women just waiting to be asked out on dates or hook up with. Hitting on the cute guy in your class for a study session was more of my style, but hey, it still worked. Then there was always the house parties, where you could get wasted and meet friends of friends. 4 years out of college though, it seems that using the strategies now that you used at your alma mater don’t work out so well. As we all get older, we are looking for more serious and meaningful relationships, dates, and even hook-ups. Being an upper-twentysomething, and especially a thirtysomething, getting plastered at a college party and hitting on men/women just seems sad. That’s because it is. Gone are the days that the men we meet in a bar are good enough as boyfriends. Men you meet in a bar are just that, bar-goers. Sure the fun-loving lifestyle was nice when we were all 21, 22, and even 25, but as we take on more responsibility like kids, mortages, real jobs with real consequences, we all want something a little more… mellow. I’ve dated my fair share of younger guys (cause I’m still using those old pesky methods), and everyone of them was still a young guy. Drinking games with the Bros, all night video game sessions, and shirking responsibilities for fun. Sure these things are awesome every now and again, but when it’s on a weekly, or worse, daily basis, it becomes a problem when you want a more serious life.
So where do we meet these more serious life loving, more responsibility craving, and less binge drinking men? Hell, I have no clue! But here’s my top 10 list on where I would start. I’ve asked my older friends where the hell I go to meet 28-35 year olds, because they simply just don’t exist where ever I’m going… unless they are the creepy guy who doesn’t wanna grow up and still drinks with the frat guys and still can’t afford his own apartment, and who wants him? Not me.
1. Coffee Shops: I still find this one intriguing. It shows something about a person who chooses a coffee shop in the evening over a bar for happy hour. Maybe he’s catching up on a case for work, maybe he’s unwinding by reading the paper. What he’s not doing however, is staying up till 2 a.m. getting wasted. And that’s a good start IMO. Plus, sample ice-breaker: “What are you reading there? Looks awful!” or “When was the last time you ordered just a hot chocolate, without the caffeine?”
2. Happy Hour: Now this one is tricky… you KEY is to leave as soon as happy hour is over. Because anyone you meet after happy hour, is most likely gonna be there all night, and wanted to start the drunk boozing early for the cheap drinks, not the social hour. Many professionals partake in happy hour, as they have a short amount of time to bond with fellow co-workers before going home to deal with responsibilities. Which is what we want! A man who can still have fun ($3 martinis anyone?), but knows when to stop and get back to the real world. Also, don’t think late night happy hour is the same thing. Stay far far far away from those when looking to meet quality men. Hit them with your friends though, for sure. Bonus here is he is likely to be all dressed up in a suit, or similar nice work clothes, so make sure you’re dressed to match. Sample ice-breaker: “Long day in the office?” or “What do you do for a living?” Plus, if you want to buy HIM a drink, it won’t break the bank! And if he passes, it was only a few dollars down the drain.
3. Sports bars: Again, doing with the bar atmosphere can be risky. But plenty of single, mature men who have good lives go to sports bars during football season to watch the game with college buddies, co-workers and friends in general. I have actually met a guy from this one. We went on one date and it didn’t work out, but hey, he worked for the DA’s office and just bought his own home, so this one definitely works. The trick is to lean towards the guys who are sharing a pitcher with their buddies and actually watching the game, and shun away from the one’s lining up shots, cause they’re in for an all dayer and an all nighter. This one I def recommend because if you are into sports, and you occasionally know what you’re talking about (“That wasn’t pass interference! C’mon!!?”), that is a BIG turn on for men. The complaint that the wife doesn’t like football won’t ever be a problem for you two, and guys dig a chick who digs sports and can drink beer. Now if you don’t know anything about sports, don’t come off as the cute-ditsy girl (“What’s the guy in the stripey shirty doing in there?”). No woman-respecting man will find that hot. A good ice-breaker would be asking a cute guy some legitimate sports questions, but just don’t sound like a ditz (“Why aren’t they going for the extra point? They can get TWO points?? Do you think the Coach should have called it that way?”) There are plenty of ice-breakers in this one. Just show up with your fave team’s jersey on, looking cute, but not too sexy, and order a decent beer (read: not corona). BONUS: offer to split man food with a cutie.
4. Pet related activities: By this I mean the dog-park, dog beach, or a pet store. A man that owns and cares for a pet says a ton about him: he is partly selfless, responsible, has a stable life, and can take on a financial burden of another life. All these things read commitment. Plus, if you have a pet, then you already have something in common. Ice-breakers can include anything from talking about breeds, to showing off your dogs tricks. And there really isn’t much sweeter than seeing a hot guy loving his dog, throwing a ball for his pup, and petting it. BONUS: Most guys at a dog park who are there along are likely to be single. One, a guy in a relationship will probably just be walking the pup around the block. Two, if he does it at all… these things usually fall under the woman’s domain. Even bigger BONUS: if your dogs get along, offer a time in the future for a “puppy play date”, if he’s into you, he’ll likely catch on and agree, asking for your digits. Text him an hour before the date asking if he’d like a coffee. TIPS: Bring doggie treats and watch where you step.
5. Dinner parties: I don’t know why, but as we grow older, our friends throw less all nighter kick-backs, and more sophisticated dinner parties/game nights. I personally prefer these types of parties, I love competition and I love board games. As long as the night doesn’t turn into a couple’s night + you, then this could be an excellent way to meet a guy. More and more I feel like my future husband is going to be a friend of a friend, and not someone I meet on the street randomly. So make sure to ask the hosts to invite some single hotties for you. Flirting should be easy in this type of environment, as you have mutual friends to converse over, and familiar faces to put you at ease. Bring a bottle of good wine that you know a few things about for conversation starters. And if it does come to game time, don’t be shy or embarrassed to start things off! Every guy loves a confident woman who can make them laugh and isn’t afraid to put herself out there. Ask him first to be on your team, if he is being shy. I once went to play laser tag with my boyfriend, and when we got there, it was literally all little kids and then us. When we went into the arena, I had about 1 second of “I’m gonna look so dumb”, but then some little shit killed me and I got into it. I said, “lets go!” and started ducking behind walls all Mission: Impossible style. Later he told me that if it hadn’t been for my excitement, he wouldn’t have been so open to getting into the silliness of it all. So let go, and make a total ass of yourself at charades, don’t be insecure, and you’ll likely catch his eye. BONUS: since it’s a dinner party, you’ll likely be in some cocktail sexy dress with some nice heels, which will already give you that confidence boost you need, and will definitely catch his eye.
6. Work: You may not see anybody interesting (or have anyone, as in my case: I work alone), but make sure you go to ALL work events. These are likely to include different departments, other locations, and if it is an open, bring your friends event, then the network is even bigger. Just be careful with whom you hit on. No one wants to make work awkward the next week! And be sure to look out for that ring! Work affairs are messy and a huge no-no. Just make sure you don’t get too sloshed and make an ass of yourself, or you’ll be known as the chicken dance lady from last year’s Christmas party all year long. “Hi, I’m Lizzy. I think we met at the Holiday Party?”, “Oh yeah! You’re the Chicken dance girl! That was funny.” End of conversation. Make sure you especially attend your company’s holiday party, as it will likely be formal (hot cocktail dresses and suits? yes please!), it will likely be BIG, and it will likely have a bar. And really the holidays are especially romantic when you’re all dressed up, cocktail in hand, and a band playing for dancing.
7. Concerts/festivals: Can you say Beer festival? An all day band festival? Oktoberfest? Men love these events, and if you love music or whatever is being celebrated at the festival, then you have get a double bonus! Hot guys who have your same interests, and an easy way to start up conversations. Plus, if it’s a total bust, at least you got to see that local band you’ve read so much about, or sampled craft beers for the first time. The key here is to bring 1 or 2 friends of the same sex at most. Too many girls, and you’re no longer approachable. Any guy in the group, and it’s hard to judge if you’re together. Coming with another couple is bad too, it could just look like 1. you have no friends, or 2. your bf is meeting up soon.
8. Church: I’m not particularly religious, so this one wouldn’t really work for me. But if you are, maybe it’s time to look at your weekly Church visits as two-fold. Love God, and find a mate. Most churches these days have a twentysomething-specialized service that is chock full of younger adults. Churches also push for mingling, before, during, and after the service. Introduce yourself to a member of the church, and ask them to introduce you around. A few weeks of attending, and you can finally say HI to that cutie long enough to ask for a post-church brunch, or coffee date. Some bonuses here are that you’ll both be in nicer clothes, showered and cleaned. And the major bonus is you know your deepest values are shared, so a year down the road you’ll never have to have that conversation about kids/abortion/marriage and the like. Another big bonus is you know the man has the capacity to love something greater than himself, and is likely to feel like he has a purpose in life (other than playing Halo 4). It could also show that he cares about others, and can keep important commitments, like going to church every week.
9: Persue your Passions: This one should seem obvious. Go out and do things you love, and you’re bound to come across a hot guy who loves those things too. It’s statistics! Run marathons-ask a hottie to train with you. Make pottery-ask a hottie for tips on this new vase you’re trying. Practice yoga-ask a hottie for a post-yoga whatever-they-drink (wheatgrass shot?). Gym rat-ask a hottie to spot you. Total geek-ask a hottie if he accepts the alt reality in the new Star Trek. If you’re out there doing what you love, you’re gonna be happy and become a much better woman for pursuing your passions, and every guy will notice that and fall for you for it. Don’t be afraid to do these things alone. Afterall, it’s your passion. Showing you’re independent and follow your dreams, and don’t just sit at home watching rom-coms, is a big turn on. And even better, if you are out there living your life, being single won’t really matter, and you know what they say: They often come when you’re not looking.
10: Running Errands: This one follows the logic of #9. Grocery shopping, going to the gym, doing your laundry, dropping off drycleaning, hell even going to the dentist… all people of all genders do these tasks. You just have to be confident enough that when you see him, or even better, when he sees you, you’re happy, because that will come across in a conversation more than any cheesy line will. If you live life and allow things to happen, they will. And if you’re in your Saturday sweats and ugg boots, even better. Because this is the real you, the everyday, in and outs of life you, and ultimately that is what he is going to have to love. If a guy hits on you when you’re “basic you”, you’re going to sweep him away and blow his mind when you’re “date you”.