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And the Nominees are…

Well folks, it’s almost that time of year… not Christmas, not New Years, but the time where we all reflect back on 2010 and make a resolution for 2011 that we won’t keep.

I don’t even remember what my resolution was for this year… maybe work out more? Who knows, NYE was a pretty drunk and hazy FUN time. But regardless, I still love getting sentimental and thinking of all the things I’ve been through, seen and experienced these past 365 days (almost) and think about what I can do to improve myself for next year.

I guess the truth of the matter is, making a resolution doesn’t help. If we could better our lives or change aspects of our personality with one promise to ourselves declared one day a year, then we’d all be pretty fabulous people. And we aren’t. Sorry. I think at this point its more of a tradition then something any of us actually take seriously or care about. It’s a question that we are expecting to be asked, and we’d better come up with an answer. Some of us decide to make it serious (lose 150 pounds), some decide to make it funny (sleep with 6 countries of women), others sentimental (reconnect with my husband). Yet, we all come up with an answer. Even “no resolution” is a statement. In fact, now that I think about it, I think last year I came up with some babble about living in modesty: exercise in modesty, drinking in modesty, sex in modesty… you get the idea. My belief was (still is) why should be make a drastic change to ourselves or our lifestyle when I honestly believe we should do a little bit of everything, and give up nothing. Well I can tell you that idea got me into a lot of trouble in 2010.

Although few can say that I lived modestly… I partied WAY too much this year, so much so that my last relationship revolved around who I was as a drunk, and not who I actually was in real life. And once I got pregnant, the real me came out, and well if you know me, you know she’s not NEARLY as fun as drunk Lizzy. I mean, I’m a pretty fun girl, a little crazy, a little sporadic and spontaneous, but overall I’m probably about a 70/30 mix: 70% chill, 30% crazy fun. Well drunk me is more like 20/80: 20% chill, and 80% crazy drunk fun. And that personality is addicting, I will tell you. Having a million friends, someone to party with every night of the week, having crazy stories to tell and funny pictures to look at… It’s the life right? I used to think so, but getting pregnant changed my perspective (I hear it’s known to do that…) and now I appreciate the calm life. What I love the most about forced sobriety is the clarification it has brought to me. But that’s for another blog…

THIS blog is to focus on what I want to change for next year. 2011 will be a year of re-birth (figuratively and literally haha). My Mom recovering from lung cancer after a miracle diagnosis, the birth of my daughter Sophie, the start of law school again, moving into my own place for the first time in my life…  So I will list some resolutions I am considering and let you dear readers pick which one you think is best for me… So at last, the nominees are:

1. Grow my hair out and DON’T cut it.

2. Start being on time.

3. Stop biting my nails.

4. Promise to do one thing from my list a month.

5. Learn to cook.

6. Learn to use my sewing machine.

7. Go back to being a Vegetarian.

8. Find that someone special.

9. Answer all phone calls from friends.

10. Move to North Carolina.

 

So there they are! My Top 10 resolution choices for 2011… Please vote in the comments section, and I will tally them up at the end of the year and make a decision 😀

Can’t we just be friends?

DISCLAIMER: This post is not in regard to any one person or situation in particular. It’s based 99% on generalities and my usual babbling, and 1% of actual truth.

I guess there is a fine line with being a guy’s friend. Especially if you have a history with them. But what’s sad is when their insecure girlfriends become jealous or uncomfortable with you when they have no reason or no proof of any wrongdoing. Trust me, of all people on this planet, I am probably the MOST guilty person of this. With some of my exes, I was VERY, IMMENSELY jealous of their gal friends and exes. Some of which I had good reason, some of which I didn’t. This must be one of the first times in my life where I am single and all my “guy friends” have girlfriends, because I am suddenly noticing this trend increasing.

It actually depresses me when I hear that a girlfriend is uncomfortable with me. First of all, since I’ve been there, I would never do that to another woman. Now the me of the past might have done something so awfully selfish, but the things I have experienced in the past year or so have changed my perspective and thus my actions. I have had several chances to hook up with a guy who had a girlfriend, so commit to a shady act with someone who was taken, yet everytime I have turned them down. Yes, I do it because it’s the right thing to do, but mostly I’ve done it because that’s not a very satisfying relationship for ME, and that’s ultimately what I’m looking for. Hooking up or flirting with a man who is otherwise taken in some aspect only creates drama, and I’ve finally come to a place in my life where I don’t want that, I don’t need that, and I can FINALLY see it coming, so I simply just don’t go there.

But what makes me sad is I genuinely hate not being friends with those I’ve been close to; boys and girls. I’m a tough person to understand and “get”, and once someone accepts me for who I am and actually likes me for it, well, I try to hold onto that person for dear life! And these other women, these other insecure women, they destroy that for me. And I get it, I really do. But honestly, I’ve learned in life that you really can use all the support you can get from friends. I’ve gone through some very rough spots of life, and what has saved me over and over hasn’t been church, or god, or drugs or alcohol, its been my friends. And right now I’m in one of those spots, where I need my friends, I need their love and support.

Maybe I’m the one being selfish here, and not them. Sure, I can see it that way. I need their friendship and support, and they need a secure relationship. Ultimately, I guess love wins over friendship. And it’s sad that it typically has to be an either/or situation. I’ve cut down my friends a lot in the past few months, deciding that the drama of keeping their friendships just isn’t worth the benefits. And again, I find myself making that choice. It’s just WAY too exhausting for me anyways, to have to deal with it all. Having to watch what you say because you don’t want to offend anyone or hurt anyone’s feelings. Not looking at someone in the eye when they’re talking too long or else it’s deemed as flirting. Making sure certain people are present when you want to just go out with your friends (i.e. It’s okay to go out with Lizzy as long as X, Y, AND Z are present, but not just X, and NEVER just Lizzy). It’s like a fucking math equation. Honestly, I can’t predict if what I say or do (within reason) is going to offend anyone. And I don’t want to. Yes, I’ll be empathic if I do hurt someone’s feelings, but I don’t see any empathy coming the other way, there’s no empathy for me. I’m just the evil ex. Period.

I’m not mad though, I’ll just call it karma and say now we’re even.

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Hat Party

Now, this is not an ordinary themed party where all attendees where hats, although that does sound kinda fun… This hat party is for my Mom, who as you all know is undergoing chemo therapy for lung cancer. She began to lose her hair about a week ago and got a super cute edgy haircut shown here:

But eventually, she will lose all her hair so some of her friends at Church have decided to throw her a “hat party”. I found this description online:

What is a hat party?

A hat party is an event that is sometimes organized for individuals who are experiencing hair loss due to medical treatments such as chemotherapy.  Friends and family get together for moral support.  Each one presents the patient with a unique hat, turban, scarf or accessory.  It is a joyful experience that often brings much relief and comfort to the patient.  It is a way for friends and family to show support and love in a difficult situation.  A hat makes a perfect, thoughtful and practical gift.  Our gift registry can help with the organization of these important events.

This is the first time I’ve ever personally had to deal with something life this, so I’m not even sure what to get her, and I’m her daughter! I’ve asked my closest friends to come and support me and my Mama through this extremely difficult time, and wanted to let you all know, if you wanted to get something for her, this is what it’s for.

http://www.headcovers.com/ has a great selection of covers, and ideas for what women going through a hair loss treatment could use to manage. I personally started wearing scarves on my head in honor of my Mama, and so when it’s her turn, I can help her style it 😉 Thank you to everyone out there who are helping support me through all of this, I truly love you!

Remember, the Hat Party is scheduled for Monday, July 5th, 2010 at 6:30pm *new date and time: Saturday, July 17th, 2010 at 2:00pm* at Pathways Community Church.

Map:

#15: Tan/Pool Topless

I’ve never actually done this before, ever. The closest I’ve gotten to going topless at a pool or the beach was last fourth of July a bunch of us girls wore pasties. That was pretty risque! However, on my latest trip to Vegas, I took the opportunity to make this dream a reality… after all It’s VEGAS!


After realizing we were staying at The Mirage, I looked on their website, and they actually have a pool called Bare Pool Lounge. Bare Pool Lounge

This pool is “European style”, which pretty much means you can go topless… which is exactly what I wanted to do! And since I was with a bunch of girls for the bachelorette party… I did just that. As soon as we came in and got our lounge chairs, my top came off. I did my best to convince the other ladies to go topless with me, but no takers… Eventually my friend and I got invited up into the VIP pool lounge area with these really awesome guys who were there for a bachelor party where they fed us a ton of drinks. And I convinced my friend in our drunken state to join me topless, which she did. Also, a few other women around the pool went topless after I did.

Was it awkward you ask? Actually, no. It was really freeing, and I have a great rack…. so it wasn’t embarrassing at all. I just owned it! And it was one of the funnest and most freeing experiences of my life. I’m so glad I did it.

#41: Play in a pickup game

Now, when I originally added this one to my list, I imagined joining in on a game of basketball, or touch football on the beach. But oh no… not in Lizzy-world. There had to be something even MORE epic…. I participated in a pick up game of….

Wait for it……

CATCHPHRASE!!!!

Catchprase Electronic

Ummm, I know what you’re thinking…

1. How the HELL does one play a pickup game of catchphrase? and…

2. How awesome is that?!?!

Well I’ll tell you…..

This past weekend I decided on a whim to take a trip with Man X.1 and his family down to Ensenada. Naturally, being the game aficionado that I am, I always carry Catchphrase with me, and this was noooo exception. Since I rock at the game, I brought it…. CP is always a good way to break the ice. And *sidenote*, I got the ladies to participate in a 4 way, across the table, group high five, and yes, it was as epically awesome as it sounds…. *end sidenote*. ANYWAYS…. since Man X.1 and I were running late due to a failed attempt at a B&E on my storage unit, we waited around for awhile on the street corner in PB, and decided to get some fun *ahem, practice* in for CP. His roomie James joined us, and the 3 of us passed it around for a few minutes. A jeep rolled up, parked, and one of the guys in the jeep actually gets out and says: “are you guys playing Catchphrase on a corner??” to which I respond “Of course!! Want to join?”

And the epic part is he says “sure, why the hell not?!” So he walks up and is joined by his other 2 friends, then a girl who lives in James’ apartment complex and the 7 of us stand around, on a street corner, and play a pickup game of CP for a good 15-20 minutes or so. How freakin awesome.com is that?????? Wow, one of the funnest random game moments of my life. So there it is, #41, playing in a pickup game, fulfilled in a completely unexpected way.

I guess that’s kinda what I like about the list… I have these things that I want to accomplish, but beyond that, it’s the experience that I look forward to and will remember… and how it never quite happened the way I thought, but I wouldn’t want it any other way than how it happened.

#5: Karaoke

After reuniting with some of my bestest friends, and drinking a heavy amount of beer at Main Tap Tavern in El Cajon due in part to awkward situations, I decided to FINALLY do karaoke. With the encouragement of my friend Mike, we decided to “sing” “On A Boat” by The Lonely Island. Pretty much the only part I had down was the “mother fucka” parts. And regardless of how utterly terrible I am at karaoke, it was actually fun and exciting. And since I lost a bet with a new guy, let’s call him Man X.1, I actually have to perform this ONE more time. I feel sorry for the poor bar I choose to do this again at, I truly do! However, I have decided that my 2nd time is going to be to Garth Brooks’ “Ain’t Goin Down Till the Sun Comes Up”, since it’s fast, up beat, and I love me some G. Brooks! I’m pretty sure I’m going to utterly embarrass myself in front of Man X.1, which sucks since I really REALLY like him. However he saw the video above and still decided to talk to me, so I might as well make it epically bad, and as I love to say, own it. Ownit.com. After this however, I will limit my karaokeing to giant groups of girls singing cheesy woman-power songs (see: Girls just wanna have fun and/or anything by the spice girls and/or Toxic by Britney Spears). I promise San Diego, I will not karaoke on my own again 🙂

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