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The Godfather

Seeing as I’m not particularly religious, I don’t really get the idea of god-parents. After googleing the term (as I do), the purpose became clear: a god-parent is supposed to help raise your children in the way of whatever religion you subscribe to in your absence. But going beyond that, I think a god-parent is someone who maintains a special 2-way relationship with the god-child. A non-blood relative who is part of the family is how I see it. Choosing someone to be a god-parent is a big deal. They’re expected to be there for a baby, kid, teenager, and eventually adult who they aren’t related to in any way whatsoever. To provide support for someone they had no help in creating.


I envision for Sophie’s god-parents to be there for birthdays and special occasions. Give her advice when she needs it and sometimes when she doesn’t. Help her out financially or otherwise if she’s struggling. But above all that, to guide her to be an awesome, stable, healthy and loved person. I imagine long philosophical debates, dates to get ice cream, trips to the zoo, and dispensing advice about her first boyfriend.


For me, there was only 1 person I could ask to be Sophie’s god-father. I know first hand the kind of support he is willing and able to give, as he has given it to me over the last 10 years. His name is Brad, and while he is an ex (and the most serious one to date), he is also still probably my best friend. I met him when I was 19 and we dated pretty much my entire adult life until I was 25. Because of the fact that we grew up as adults together, we agree on almost everything, have a ton in common, and he is probably the most intelligent person I know (besides myself, obviously). While a “god”-parent is supposed to raise the “god”-child in the ways of, well, god, I know he will raise Sophie in the way of intellect. And good taste in music. Brad and I have been through hell and back, he has seen me at my worst and my best, and I dearly love him still to this day. I always knew he would always be a part of my life somehow, and I am thankful that in can be in this capacity.


I am not sure how my future will pan out, none of us can be. I do know though that the people that love me in my life will always do right by Sophie. I am thankful that for everything I have been through I have this amazing family and extended family that are so good to me. And I am thankful that Brad accepted being her god-parent. He really is almost an extension of myself (except that fact that he is slowly becoming more and more politically conservative) and I know Sophie will grow up loving him! I did tell him, however, that if he ever registers republican, his god-parent privileges will be revoked. And I mean it.

#6: Take a Yoga Class

I’ve always wanted to try yoga, but was afraid I would be bad at it, or not earthy or hippy enough for it. However, being a 24 Hour member has it’s perks in that they offer free yoga classes at every location multiple days/times of the week… so basically they leave you NO excuse to not try it. And since I’m pregnant, and hugely so, I have been hindered from doing my regular exercise routine that I came to adore and enjoy (surprisingly). I figured this way I get the best of both worlds: I still get to exercise, and I get to cross something off my list! Plus, I hear the breathing exercises are good for “labor”… although I’m convinced my labor is going to be very fast and easy (as was the same way she was conceived. Hiyo!!) Anyways, after a phone call to 24 Hour to confirm that huge pregnant ladies can participate safely in the class (we can), I was out of excuses and decided it was time to go. The class I went to is held on Tuesday and Thursday nights at the 24 Hour in Santee at 7:30pm. Even though the first night I went I was extremely tired and sleepy, I forced myself to go anyways. And I was glad I did. Yoga isn’t difficult, at least for me. Before and after every workout session I was stretching vigorously. And the yoga class I participated in was a lot of stretching. And balancing. Most of my workout routine also happened to include balancing as I would do all my arm/shoulder workouts on a BOSU ball. And I was in dance all through high school and college. Turns out my past is actually very well suited to yoga. The only trouble I had was the actual muscle building parts, since I hadn’t worked out in awhile, holding a squat pose proved difficult. I do quite enjoy yoga now, all the breathing and stretching and laying down. It was the most calming workout/exercise experience I have ever had and I plan to continue to participate in yoga for a very long time to come. Bravo 24 Hour for offering these classes!

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