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1st Ever Live Blog Post!

As a promise I made if my blog hit over 3,000 views, I will be doing a live blog post through ustream.com Monday evening from 8:30pm until 9. I fully don’t expect anyone to log in and watch me, but I will be putting the archive up on my blog that night. If anyone wants to send me questions, I promise to answer them truthfully! Otherwise, expect my usual babble about relationships, philosophy and baby pains. If you do wanna send me questions, DM or @ message me @20somethinglife, or “like” my blog on Facebook and post em there!

This is the first time I will ever be doing a live video blog, so I hope it goes smoothly and I don’t look like a total idiot, although I know I will! Anyways, it’s something I’ve wanted to experiment with for awhile now so wish me luck!

Can’t we just be friends?

DISCLAIMER: This post is not in regard to any one person or situation in particular. It’s based 99% on generalities and my usual babbling, and 1% of actual truth.

I guess there is a fine line with being a guy’s friend. Especially if you have a history with them. But what’s sad is when their insecure girlfriends become jealous or uncomfortable with you when they have no reason or no proof of any wrongdoing. Trust me, of all people on this planet, I am probably the MOST guilty person of this. With some of my exes, I was VERY, IMMENSELY jealous of their gal friends and exes. Some of which I had good reason, some of which I didn’t. This must be one of the first times in my life where I am single and all my “guy friends” have girlfriends, because I am suddenly noticing this trend increasing.

It actually depresses me when I hear that a girlfriend is uncomfortable with me. First of all, since I’ve been there, I would never do that to another woman. Now the me of the past might have done something so awfully selfish, but the things I have experienced in the past year or so have changed my perspective and thus my actions. I have had several chances to hook up with a guy who had a girlfriend, so commit to a shady act with someone who was taken, yet everytime I have turned them down. Yes, I do it because it’s the right thing to do, but mostly I’ve done it because that’s not a very satisfying relationship for ME, and that’s ultimately what I’m looking for. Hooking up or flirting with a man who is otherwise taken in some aspect only creates drama, and I’ve finally come to a place in my life where I don’t want that, I don’t need that, and I can FINALLY see it coming, so I simply just don’t go there.

But what makes me sad is I genuinely hate not being friends with those I’ve been close to; boys and girls. I’m a tough person to understand and “get”, and once someone accepts me for who I am and actually likes me for it, well, I try to hold onto that person for dear life! And these other women, these other insecure women, they destroy that for me. And I get it, I really do. But honestly, I’ve learned in life that you really can use all the support you can get from friends. I’ve gone through some very rough spots of life, and what has saved me over and over hasn’t been church, or god, or drugs or alcohol, its been my friends. And right now I’m in one of those spots, where I need my friends, I need their love and support.

Maybe I’m the one being selfish here, and not them. Sure, I can see it that way. I need their friendship and support, and they need a secure relationship. Ultimately, I guess love wins over friendship. And it’s sad that it typically has to be an either/or situation. I’ve cut down my friends a lot in the past few months, deciding that the drama of keeping their friendships just isn’t worth the benefits. And again, I find myself making that choice. It’s just WAY too exhausting for me anyways, to have to deal with it all. Having to watch what you say because you don’t want to offend anyone or hurt anyone’s feelings. Not looking at someone in the eye when they’re talking too long or else it’s deemed as flirting. Making sure certain people are present when you want to just go out with your friends (i.e. It’s okay to go out with Lizzy as long as X, Y, AND Z are present, but not just X, and NEVER just Lizzy). It’s like a fucking math equation. Honestly, I can’t predict if what I say or do (within reason) is going to offend anyone. And I don’t want to. Yes, I’ll be empathic if I do hurt someone’s feelings, but I don’t see any empathy coming the other way, there’s no empathy for me. I’m just the evil ex. Period.

I’m not mad though, I’ll just call it karma and say now we’re even.

Movember Week 2!

Movember Week 2!

 

Mo gear!

What I’ve been waiting all week since starting the Movember blog…. the updates! There is nothing sexier than some facial hair on a man, especially when it is for a good cause!!! So drumroll please………………….

 

Nate M.

Movember Start

Week 1 Mo!

 

Here is a link for Nate M.’s donation page for Team Legendhairy:

http://us.movemeber.com/mospace/943124/

Sean B.

Movember Start

8 day Mo!

Here is a link for Sean B.’s donation page:

http://us.movember.com/mospace/853356/

Dan M.

Movember Start


1 week Mo!

It’s not looking real promising just yet, but I’m hoping to sport a Pancho Villa look by the end of the month.  Ambitious?  Maybe… but I’m more ambitious about helping out with this cause.

Great story:

Not only did Colleen Cardas  hit us with a nice team donation on behalf of Cardas Audio ( www.cardas.com ) but she has also enthusiastically joined Team LegendHairy – and went digging in some old halloween boxes for her own mustache for her Movember team photo: http://us.movember.com/mospace/1171878/

Here is a link for Dan M.’s donation page for Team Legendhairy:

http://us.movember.com/mospace/1001822/

Mo Sista support!

Can you believe it?  She changed her facebook photo to this for Movember!

There are not a lot of women willing to sport such a thing  and certainly wouldn’t get a photo taken of it to boot (save for my little Sicilian great-grandmother on mom’s side of the family)!

Travis T.

Movember Start

1 week Mo!

Travis calls it: “My Mo-Stache for Cash!

Christian N.

Movember Start

1 week Mo!

Tom S.

Movember Start

1 week Mo!

Tom says: “It’s an unfortunate close-up, but look! There’s the onset of mo-greatness right there! Surely I can start begging for donations soon? It’s in-between looking like a moustache and the shadow you’d get on a teen looking to buy alcohol. The fun part is that I start a series of lectures tomorrow, so I’ll probably be known as that weird looking lecturer. Wonderful! Am thinking of ways to raise more mo-awareness; probably by doing something silly if we (the team) reach a certain amount of donations….

Love the support you’re lending to the mo men!”

Here is a link for Tom S.’s donation page:

ttp://uk.movember.com/mospace/963312

Brian W.

Movember Start

1 week Mo!

 

Russ S.

Movember Start

1 week Mo!

Russ says: “Attached shows that I’m discovering my inner truck-driver, as I’ve decided to try letting the handlebars grow all the way down. No funny stories, unfortunately, other than my 6yo daughter repeatedly threatening to shave me in my sleep.

Here is a link for Russ S.’s donation page:

http://us.movember.com/mospace/562356/

Mike C.

Movember Start

1 week Mo!

Mike says: “Well this is the base growth after week 1.  I do the base build first to avoid the dirty lip look. I am going to start shaping it up this weekend.

Mike C.’s Donation Page: http://us.movember.com/mospace/908906/

Eric C.

Movember Start

1 week Mo!

Eric says: “Nobody has yet to ask me if I’m driving a Trans Am to Texas to pick up beer. If you get that reference, kudos.

Nate L.

Movember Start

1 week Mo!

Aaron C.

Movember Start

Week 1 Mo!

Here is a link for Aaron C.’s donation page:

http://us.movember.com/mospace/1099354/

John G.

Movember Start

1 week Mo!

Here is a link for John G.’s donation page:

http://us.movember.com/mospace/910318/

Aaron B.

Movember Newbie!

“I am participating in Movember to help raise awareness for male health. I recently had a close friend whose father died of prostate cancer, amongst many other friends and family are are suffering from many other cancers.”

Oscar L.

Movember Start

Week 1 Mo!

Justin P.

Movember Start

Week 1 Mo!

Mo Sistas!!!

Stephanie H.

Movember Start!

1 week Mo!

Julia O.

Mo Sista love!



Megan W.

She is a woman, I swear!

CAN’T wait until next week!!! Please, comment on the hilarious pictures, and spread the word for a good cause!!!!!

psst!: Shut Up, Baldinger–Ines Sainz Did Not “Bring It On Herself”

psst!: Shut Up, Baldinger–Ines Sainz Did Not “Bring It On Herself”.

The opinion in this report is spot on: The Fox news analyst who claims that any woman can bring on harassment or harm from men because of the way they are dressed… takes away all personal responsibility and opens the door for rapists, child molesters, and the like to put the blame solely on the woman. It’s a terrible and astonishingly old fashioned point of view, and it’s incredibly surprising people are tolerating it. Although, to be honest, I wouldn’t expect anything less from FOX.

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